Sometimes Life Gets In the Way
Injuries. Kid stuff. Partner stuff. Money. Priorities. Burnout. There are so many things that can cause us to take a little pole break. And getting back on the pole after a break can be challenging. Those carefully built-up calluses are gone. And let’s not even talk about the strength or endurance you’ve lost. Frustration lurks everywhere!
All is not lost! There are a few ways to keep yourself going on those days where you don’t feel like it
GIVE YOURSELF TIME
You wouldn’t expect to come right back to your former level in any other sport… would you? If you had been running 10 miles a day at an 8-minute-mile pace, and then you had to stop running for six weeks because you twisted your ankle, would you expect to pop right back into doing 10-milers at the same pace? Probably not. You’d work your way back into it. You might get there faster than you had before, thanks to the conditioning work you put in the first time around, but you probably wouldn’t just tie on the old running shoes and instantly recapture your old form. Or let’s say you were into martial arts and had to take some time off because work got crazy busy and something had to give. Then work clears up a little and you find yourself back on the mat. Your muscle memory is all probably still there … but your stamina, flexibility, and conditioning will need a little time.
BE AS KIND TO YOURSELF AS YOU WOULD TO A FRIEND
If a friend came up to you and told you what a difficult time she or he was having with being back on the pole, what would you say? Would you be negative and dismissive, or would you support them? Would you expect them to have their aerial shoulder mount within two days of being back on the pole, or would you expect that they might need a little time to work back up to the level they’d been at before?
Bottom line: why is it so difficult for us to be kind to ourselves?
DISTANCE YOURSELF FROM THE NEGATIVE SELF-TALK
If you’re having a bad training day and you feel it getting you down, do something to distract yourself before the self-negativity gets out of hand. Stop working on whatever you’d been working on, put your favorite song on, and just dance for a few minutes. Or move to something that you are ready to fine-tune, and …. fine-tune it!
WRITE YOUR NEGATIVE SELF-TALK ON PAPER
Take the nasty things you’ve been saying to yourself in your head and physically write them down. Then read them back to yourself aloud. Sometimes it can be a real eye-opener.
Special thanks to my dear friend Leah for suggesting this topic!